Caregiver Abuse

Felt compelled to start this blog after receiving this email from a friend:


"Having the most awful time dealing with my mother...such an arrogant and lazy person..I cant even defend myself bc she is ALWAYS RIGHT..I was busy trying to fix a meal when she has to interject she didn't like the idea I put a towel on her window..saying it made the house hot and that I must be crazy or nuts. The list is endless as to what I have to do for her and it gets worse bc both my lousy sob brothers dont help either financially or otherwise..they just add to the misery..one tells me it take two to tangle and the other tells me to get professional help...I told him to get some help himself and learn how to be more caring for his own mother and to grow up some.Its like two selfish ostriches giving me crap but only taking care of their own butts.Its so senseless..my newest responsibility is giving the evil queen her meds..she had everything in open bottles scattered throughout the house.I color coded the daily dosages and have them in a pocketed calendar..if not she would be hitting the walls from her lack of meds.When I try to reason with her she will just shake her head denying that I help at all and saying shes done it all her life anyways...today is the younger jerks sons bday party and I am staying as far away from this toxic family as possible..I am tired of being the scapegoat/slave. I was berated for not attending by mother in her blast against me during the earlier confrontation again saying something is wrong with me.... Its pitiful. Yet jerk brother with rant to mother why I dont attend his party...hello..wake up and smell the crap !

Its been made all the more difficult bc she had taken two bad falls and was going to change of meds..making her delusional and irrational...had to rush her to er bc she thought she couldn't urinate..but that was a false alarm.



I get told not to feel sorry for myself, that everyone has problems...yet they get to travel have real lives and still have the balls to defend themselves for not helping with their mother. They have options and I dont.. At least I am not in the same four walls that she is but is just as well be that way bc I am always having to see she doesn't do harm to the house or herself."